Husbands and wives are puzzled, hurt, and frustrated because their spouse either refuses sex or will have sex only on rare occasions. If you have worked hard to be understanding, kind, clean, attractive, affectionate, patient, an initiator, etc. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. Despite this clear biblical teaching, many Christian wives and husbands avoid or refuse sex. Because of selfishness.
What Do I Do If My Spouse Won’t Have Sex?
It’s been 19 years.
Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. Hey guys. I am hoping I am not the only guy in this boat We are still relatively young I am 30 and she is 29 and we have been married 4 years, been together about ten. We used to have a pretty active sex life but it has gone dormant since we had kids about 3 years ago. She always says she is tired and makes excuses like she can't be bothered or other trivial things. And she never comes on to me. Being depressed and having low self esteem probably makes it seem worse, but I take it pretty badly being knocked back and going without sex for months. I feel maybe she isn't attracted to me or in love with me anymore but she denies this.
The spreadsheet chronicled the previous six weeks of their relationship, how many times he attempted to initiate having sex, and all of the reasons why she declined. Yesterday morning, while in a taxi on the way to the airport, Husband sends a message to my work email which is connected to my phone. On the flip side, this is a very private issue that she chose to make public to the entire world, so neither party made the optimal choice in how to handle this. I understand that consistent avoidance of intimacy from your own wife can be frustrating, but there is obviously more going on here than meets the eye.
What do you do when you're married and your partner doesn't want to have sex any more? What's the answer? If counseling doesn't work or your partner won't go, what are your options? Tom is 55 and his wife, Shelley, is They've been married 25 years and have three kids. It's not that she doesn't enjoy sex, it's the frequency that's the problem for me.